The amazing thing about all the planning, scrimping, worrying, arguing, imbibing and saving for a wedding is when you actually pull it off. The successful arrival of all your guests to your island paradise, the sigh of relief knowing that both sets of parents get along so well that you can stick them at the corner of the wedding table and not have to check up on them too often. These are just some of the things that make you breathe a sigh of relief, look your Prewife in the eye knowing all is well with her too, and then go hit the beach.
Of course, even the best wedding is not all smiles and sunshine… From our own personal experience – we learned to be very flexible. We saw our guest list drop from 50 to 15 people. It worked out well, since in the end it was actually quite an intimate affair (and what I wanted all along). We went from having a full band and a buffet style beach dinner, to a DJ and buffet dinner, to an iPod hooked up to speakers at a restaurant, to what was playing at the Restaurant. This was fine as well as the restaurant was excellent. As usual props go out to the Prewife – always cool under pressure, and nary a hissy-fit in sight. Gents, make sure your Prewife has nerves of steel and the flexibility to match. Getting married at an island destination is not for the faint of heart.
The one thing we did not scrimp on was the photographer. If there is one thing we can say is most important, it is the photog. Now this doesn’t mean you have to blow all your money on the most expensive one. But make sure to get the best one you can afford. Take your time on this. If the wedding is local, look at their pics and talk with the photographer and find out how they interact with you. If they have references, by all means use them. If the wedding is a destination, then as soon as you decide where to have it, find out who is going to shoot it. Check out their website, email them, etc. Destination weddings tend to be in beautiful places that sometimes have limited resources – such as a photographer’s availability. So get the best one you can quickly, before they are snatched up by another wedding party. Do not rely on friends or relatives for anything more then “fun photos” or you will be very disappointed.
If you happen to be going to Turks and Caicos, where we had our wedding, the photographer we used was Ileana, from Tropical Imaging. I cannot say enough good things about her. Professional, relaxed, engaging, on the ball, excellent photographer, the list goes on, you get the idea. Tropical Imaging’s setup for picking out pictures you want to keep is straight forward and is as easy as opening up your laptop, logging on to their site and selecting the images you want.
So, this week and next, we here at Prewife will focus on some great locations for destination weddings.